This is almost spousal abuse. I mean “growing” these women could lead to increased risks of heart disease and other medical problems related to obesity.

Female Fat is pure SEX to me - I love huge overlapping aprons and undulating rolls of stretchmarked shocking flaccid slop. Side show exabitionist fatgirl freaks who love to show off their sexual mountains of fat are my favorate people.
My wife is currently over 900 pound. I would have to be 2 feet long to penetrate her. The last time we had “that kind” of sex was 4 years ago when she was 750 pounds. I love sex with her now even more, sinking deep into her flabby folds of overlapping fat gives me the biggest orgasums I have ever had. Watching her compulsivly eat herself even fatter is the most thrilling part of my life. I love her growing fat, every new pound of her flab gets me even more excited.

People shouldn’t be encouraging their lovers to be fat, even if they feel can find sexual graticfication for obese, immobile waivers of what the human race is meant to resemble.

I have my own biases about obese people. I don’t see what is so great about having sexual relations with someone who revoltingly resembles a dying corspe on the brink of yet another junk food marathon.

That guy Fat Lover probably loved to bury his genitals in the abyss of the rolls of fat that obese chicks’ possess. That explains his ‘orgasms’. Did you know that fat and obese chicks tend to have looser vaginas? I guess the rolls of fat sort of made up for the fact.

Julie wrote:
>Did you know that fat and obese chicks tend to
>have looser vaginas?”
Might I ask where you got your facts, Julie? As an ob/gyn nurse and a fat girl, I am here to correct you! I am 45 years old and 265 pounds and my husband is still amazed at my “schoolgirl tightness” (his exact words) You have your facts totally wrong, my dear! Fat girls actually have TIGHTER vaginas than their skinny counter-parts because of the compression of the vagina by the surrounding extra fat! If you would have researched before you shot off your skinny mouth, you would have found out what every ob/gyn doc knows…to do an exam and pap on a fat girl, they must use a heavey duty spectulum to hold open those feriously tight muscles! Fat admirers all know how deliciously tight we are and the fat haters don’t know what they are missing! So until you might be inclined to do some digital exams on some of your fat friends, don’t write about things you know nothing of!
Thin may be In, but Fat is where it’s At!!!
the groovy misspoovey

Obesity is a huge problem of western culture particularly. It causes diabetes, heart disease, joint destruction, hypercoagulable states, gastrointestinal cancer, fatty liver disease, breast cancer, pancreatic cancer, impaired fertility,depression, depressive psychosis, suicidal ideation, loss of function and reality, extreme relationship problems and troubles with raising kids, getting and maintaining a job and those are just the beginning. It has been proven that calorie reduced diets and exercise will only effectively promote sustainable weightloss if the individual has a body mass index of less than thirty to thirty five and after that, the only real valid options are either radical digestive surgery or death. Radical means that a section of the GI tract is ressected and various tubes are relocated etc so that food cannot be absorbed. This is painful and complicated not to mention that when most people get to this stage , they have a ten or twenty percent chance of dying during surgery. After that, it is a slow and painful process to recovery and weight loss.. regular vitamin B12 injections for the rest of the patient’s life and the most foul smelling diarrhoea as a result of the surgically induced malabsorbative state are only a few of the unpleasant things that these people have to put up with until their dying day after this radical last resort.
The surgeons who do these operations often require two tables to fit the patient on whilst needing to borrow the local health trust’s most ample hoist (of which there are only a couple per trust)to haul the recovering post-op individual from bed to bath etc. The surgeons often say that operating on severely large people is so indimidating simply due to the amount of fat that stands between himself and the true abdomen!
As a trainee medical professional, I have spent a great deal of my time recently attending obesity clinics and the most important thing that I have taken from this experience is that these people have no lives ad they are dying. Obviously, I am referring to those who are morbidly obese but the theme is similar throughout - poor self esteem, poor relationships, poor daily function and increased morbidity.One lady wanted to lose weight so that she could wipe herself after going to the toilet. Her husband had fed her up to this point of sheer dependence and he looked horrified when she was told that she needed radical surgery or else she would be dead in eighteen months. Horrified that she would be losing weight, not that she was clinically dying!
It is easy for me to speak with rage about feeder mentality for hours but it would serve no purpose. Feeders are perverts who to my mind are slow-murderers. They cause personal, physical and social pain. They need help. Obesity is something that many people are genetically predisposed to or who have diseases that cause it. To purposefully induce that state in individual who one supposedly loves is of the cruellest and most warped order.

Luanne is right!I’m fat and my boyfriend always remarks at how tight I am. Not only that, but it’s very warm, almost hot down there, because of the insulating fat. Men who have been w/ fat chicks know.

900 pound, jesus. does she get a letter from the queen when she reaches 1000pounds?

Well said, Laura.

You people do not get it. FAT is the ultra aphrodisiac. All of her overlapping cellulite bubbled stretch marked slop spread out on the bed. Her legs forced apart by growing rolls of expanding blubbery flaccid creased fat. Watching her eat, as I get rock hard, biting her fat.
I have cum 30 times in one day porking that fat blob of mine. I love FAT, everything about it is sex to me.

ill………

On another note, i have a 11 year old sis that is so fat she can barely move. Seriously, getting out of bed is hard for her. I think that is so descusting when people are that fat becuase their not even human any more, there just a GIGANTIC balloon of nothing but fat that continues to eat and get bigger. Whats cool about that? its pethetic. But trying to see by baby sis lift her 300lb body out of bed, jiggling every roll of fat on her, while she thinks about the tables of sweats my parents are about to shove into her mouth at breakfast is just sad. Its fun to see her fall tho, she cant get back up lol

11 year old sister? 300 lbs?? mmmmmmm.

yes very well said Laura!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

300 pounds at 11, yea when she is 18 and of legal age she should have put on another 300 pounds or so making her 600 pounds of sloppy hanging flaccid blubber. Just like I love them.

Then you can set me up with your sister and we can have plenty of FAT sexual fun. First thing I will do is set her up in her feeding room. wall to wall ultra FAT pornography will surround her as she is videoed 24 hours a day. Plenty of fat fetish perverts, just like me, will pay to watch your sister eat her way to 1,200 pounds! WWW. ultrafatgirlexpandingsex.com will be your sisters web site. I will have my friend Hypno Chick hypnotize your sister into eating even more than she already does. “relax, your getting more and more hungry. Food is your best friend eating will make you feel fantastic. All your cares will evaporate, food food is what you want.”

As she eats herself fatter and fatter I will film every new pound. I will blubber fuck every distorted crease of her bulging FAT. Oh what a heaven, her staring at me as she downs an entire cheese cake. Me getting harder & harder as I take deep plunges into her jiggling fat. A shaking waving sea of blubbery pornographic fat slop.

FAT sex shows for all the world’s FAT fetish perverts! Your sister will be the biggest side show sex freak of all time. Oh I will be sooo good for her, don’t you think?

Too many liars in here.

Fat Lover is obviously not serious. You people that reply to his comments are idiots!

I’ve looked closely at quite a bit of the media coverage which alleges that “fatness” is genetic. First, the issue has become highly political and is muddied by too many laymen, so don’t take what you read for granted. One of the most frequent mistakes is to confuse “genes” with other systems of heredity, which I should emphasize, can interact with genes, but are hardly understood. We do know that genes alone could not produce even 1/100th of human variation, and that is statistical. I am just a layman myself, but I have not read anything that absolutely proves that there is a gene which makes otherwise quite healthy people fat. However, it is entirely true that a person may find the odds stacked against them, for reasons beyond their control.

Writing that off to “genes” does speak truthfully to an overweight person’s real predicament for two reasons. First, there are environmental factors as well which are beyond their control, but I believe are not beyond our responsibility. We could take on poverty and McDonald’s if we wanted. Dismissing “fat” as the fault of genetics I think is holding up reform. Fat is a social ill, it is harming people, we need to tackle it, and not shuffle the blame onto the genes of the people who are overweight.

Second, while an overweight person may never be able to get their own weight down to being normal, they can do their best, and this is going to set an example for people around them. Given how complex heredity really is, as I mentioned, there are more factors we need to look after than just genes, which might make our next generation overweight like us, or worse. I admit the odds really are stacked against most overweight individuals so that it may seem their weight is immutable, but making the effort, itself is a virtue.

Any notion of thought which blames a national problem on an individual, is wrong. This includes people who think it’s “your choice” to be overweight or not. It’s our problem, all of us have to solve it. Our politicians in particular are at the locus of the problem. Weight problems correlate very strongly with poverty, something that other nations fight hard against, but we do shit for. I can see why people get discouraged, because so much of this is beyond the individual’s control, but if you give up, things are never going to change. We have to keep thinking about it, keep looking for things you the individual can do, no matter how small.

That’s my measured, political opinion. Now personally, I’ve been derided ever since high school for being “skinny,” and at 5′10, 130 lbs., I’m pretty safely in the medically-recognized “healthy”/”normal” range.

I don’t feel that I am always treated normal however. I have been flagged by counselors as anorexic, few stores besides Shepler’s carry my size, and I might be just as disappointed as an overweight girl when I decide her body is just so different compared to mine that I’m not attracted to an otherwise great woman. I seem to attract alot of bullies too, and while they never say anything about my size, they are invariably a notch bigger than me, and usually accuse me of being vain, and therefore gay. There are overweight persons who have it worse than me, but this is a national epidemic, my “skinny” life is not unaffected either, and skinny folk ought to be willing allies of anyone fighting “the weight problem.”

To the person who laughs at their morbidly obese sister falling and ot being able to get back up, you are a monster laughing at a little girl like that!! You should be forced to wear a suit that makes YOU weigh 300 lbs and causes you to fall when you try to get up and down, then see how YOU like it!

to the 11 year fat girl, you’d better lose wait fast otherwise one day you’ll fall over and won’t be able to get up as some sick paedo will have his c*ck up your ass and you won’t be able to stop him as your too fat. Eat less exercise more you moron.

There is nothing wrong with a feedee/feeder lifestyle if it performed by two consenting adults. most relationships of this type are loving,kind and caring.I happen to know that Mark
is a wonderful and loving husband and has been unjustly vilifide. It is my understanding that Gina herself is very upset by Mark’s portrayal
as a selfish asshole. The so called documentary was made only to sensationalize and missrepresent this type of lifestyle out of pure ignorance. It
is not a form of abuse any more than anal sex
or wife swapping. What ever floats your boat and
its not for others to judge. I have been involved
in a feeder/feedee relationship with my wife for
over 18 years now and we both enjoy ever minute of
it. When we married she weighed 475lbs she now
is up to approx. 825lbs. The sexual gratification
we both receive is incredible. We have two lovely daughters 14 and 16 both are large girls and my wife had no major problems with the pregnancies
even though she weighed over 650lbs with the last one. Everyone has a different idea of the perfect relationship and thats what makes up the spice of life. So if you think fat people are gross well, just remember thats your opinion and one persons poison is anothers pleasure

There’s just something so sexy about watching someone so fat that they can hardly move. oh god

This is just fucking ridiculous. Now don’t get me wrong, I do like a woman with some meat on her bones. Especially around the hips and butt, but jeez that’s just fucking sick. Even for me. While I do find skinny or what most call “average” unattractive, There’s just something about an obese woman that’s just sickening. Why the hell would someone want someone so fat that they become sickly. how are you going to fuck a woman when she is sick all of the time? and how can you take the smell? When obese (IMO anything over 300 pounds) women sweat, they smell like raw ass and horse shit. Sorry but I just cannot achieve and maintain an erection. I barely can keep myself from losing my lunch.

The thought of having a wife that is very soft and that I sink into is just mesmerizing. If I could learn to love such a goddess I would love her to the end. I am not a feeder I just love the woman that I am with to be big and soft. Real soft and really really big!!!

Anyone who can suggest that a relationship which encourages someone to eat so much that they risk; heart disease, diabetes, the destruction of joints and bone matter, several forms of cancer, liver disease, loss of fertility, depression,loss of movement and a total inability to care for oneself; is a loving one must be a very sick puppy indeed. There is nothing wrong with finding a big girl (or man) attractive, everyone has their own ideas of perfection, but when these ideas extend to risking one partners life then this becomes VERY wrong. A relationship which encourages one person to put their life at risk is NOT loving, any more than a relationship where one partner hits another. The ‘feeders’ have been described as enjoying the ‘caring’ aspect of the relationship; and I am sure that they are superficially very caring to their victims. The desire to eat until one becomes imobile indicates a vulnerable psyche and these ‘feeders’ are merely taking full advantage of that. No one would suggest that a relationship where the woman has frequent black eyes was loving no matter how caring and attentive the man appeared to be. This abuse would be investigated. I fail to see how ‘feeding’ differs.

wow that was soo well writen rcv i totaly agree to what you said, i have been seein a guy for a while and have just realised that he is a feeder, so ive done my reasurch and have come up wiv lots of different views on what a feeder is and does, but have figured that there are lots of different lengths of what a person wiv a feeder fetish finds attractive, for example he might get turned on by a few pounds of wight gain but then also to the more extensive extream of them bein imobile (which i think is taking it too far) pluss i am a big girl myself but i also hava pritty face and i just dont wanna put on that much wieght so i think hes gunna have to go! ha ha ha but big is always better hee hee!

p.s sorry for my english i cant write it very well!

First just let me say that most of that program “Fat Girls and Feeders” was mostly fabricated. I have been in a feeder/feedee relationship with my husband for almost 15 years and it is consensual. I have never felt forced, coerced or abused in any way. Most feeder/feedee relationships are based on trust and love for each other the same way other so-called normal relationships are. Many people derive sexual pleasure from food and being fed by their partner. Why do you think many foods are considered aphrodisiacs. It very is natural to equate food with the oral pleasures. As far as feeders leaving their feedee after they get board or when health problems manifest themselves, I have only heard about this in rare cases. In fact Mark and Gina (the subjects of “fat Girls and Feeders”) are still together and will be for a long time to come. In fact I believe Gina wrote a letter to the producers of the show stating how disappointed she was in the portrayal of their lifestyle. Bottom line is don’t believe everything you see on TV. This type of so called journalism is the lowest form of sensationalism out there. Its only purpose is to garner ratings and of make money for the people who sponser it.

Fat women rule, fat women are the most beautiful women on the planet. I would love to have a gigantic babe to feed. There is something incredibly sexual and decadent about a huge woman eating and being pampered like an enormous princess. Believe me If I had a woman who was 800 lbs I would attend to her every need. Total devotion is what its all about and that is what feederism is all about. To willingly become completely dependant on your partner and to become totaly devoted to your partner for their every need. It is the ultimate in sacrifice and trust. Honestly, how many other so called normal relationships can boast that? Especially in todays world were marriage is treated like a used car. Disposed of when it becomes to costly to maintain.

I’m very sorry if people out there think that this kind of activity is wrong and dangerous. But let me remind you that there are a lot of other dangerous activities that we willingly induge our loved ones in. Things like rock climbing, sky diving, auto racing, hang gliding just to name a few. all these activities have their risks, yet their ok. I don’t get it. It seems to me what it all boils down to is that some people just find any sort of sexual activity out of the norm. offensive. Also please stop playing psychiatrist, making judgments about other people’s mental health without knowing them is asinine. You can’t understand someone’s else’s motives or actions simply by reading bullshit posts or watching ridiculus television programs.

-”and I might be just as disappointed as an overweight girl when I decide her body is just so different compared to mine that I’m not attracted to an otherwise great woman.” ~ Travis. Women are made to be curvy and soft (not necessarily obese, but are genetically engineered to carry more fat on their bodies than men). If you really want someone with a body similar to yours, you should be questioning your sexual orientation.

How can you people complain about how obesity is such a “problem” when there’s countless numbers of people in the united states and abroad who are homeless and underfed?

I’ve met lots of fat people, and honestly, they don’t seem that unhappy unless they’ve been mistreated by those who are more socially accepted. It’s the homeless and starving who seem desperate and despondent.

Those of you who describe obesity with words like “disgusting” sound less like you’re looking out for the interests of fat people, and more like you’re looking out for your own sexual ideals.

You need to realize that people can make their own decisions about how they want to live. It’s those who have no choice, but to live in painful circumstances that you should be focusing on (and certainly this includes some fat people).

I was wondering if anyone might know of any type of profiles or studies that may have been done on “feeders”, if there is some reference or common bond that draws them to this preference. I am a “FAT GIRL” 4oo+ @ 5ft tall.

Likesemhuge, comparing feederism to risky sports is totally misleading. When you feed your mate to morbid obesity and beyond, you are not taking a RISK, you are ENSURING that she will be deprived of her ability to take part in basic human activities like washing and walking that most people take for granted. How many people do you think would go skydiving if they knew that they would definitely have an accident and become paraplegic?

Also, to you and everybody else trying to defend your actions by saying that people have no right to jugde your “tastes” or motives: The problem with feederism has nothing to do with it being disgusting, or uncaring.

In fact, it has nothing to do with aesthetics or motivations at all. I don’t care what other people’s tastes are, or whether they do things our of love or compulsion. You might be perfectly loving and devoted partners just as you say and you’re right, people have no right to criticize you because “fat is gross.” But people do have a right to criticize you when you are doing something that condemns someone to a life of hardship and dependency, not to even mention the risks of terminal illness and death, regardless of what your reason for doing so or her willingness might be.

If you honestly loved a woman and you enjoyed providing her with heroin and she liked surrendering herself to this situation, does that make it right?

I have read all of the responses above, and the following is my general response to them as a whole:

What makes anything right or wrong? and who controls who? Our country was founded on CHOICE, LIBERTY, and “IN GOD WE TRUST”. And God wants us to have FREE WILL! God wants us to learn by choices we make of our own FREE WILL. Anything that is FORCED AND NOT BY CHOICE, history has shown, God knows, and we should also know (by our own rebellious rejections), is doomed. What makes any of us like or dislike anything? We were all meant to be individuals, all with our own little quirks, talents, hobbies, desires, turn-ons, turn-offs, looks, personalities, etc.; and THE BETTER THAT PEOPLE, as a whole, CAN accept that fact and LIVE AND LET LIVE, THE BETTER OFF THE WHOLE WORLD WILL BE.

dont bring God into this- He above all wont justify turning people into animals. The simplest example- one of the seven main sins is gluttony.

Sexual gratification is one of man kinds strongest desires, and he/she would do anything to satisfy it. Even if it means slow self-destruction, but if both partners are consenting, then really it is only thier own fault for destroying themselves. On the other hand the pleasure they experience must be amazing, for who would go to such great lengths to become or help someone become morbidly obese??? Really they are just living up life to it’s fullest, in thier perspective. Anyways fuck everything else do whatever you want, it’s a fucking free country and you only live once….

I think a lot of you people need to calm the fuck down. The bottom line is, it’s none of your business what two consenting adults do with their lives. Provide their actions do not violate the law, You should have nothing to say about it and to best of my knowledge becoming grossly fat does not break any laws in this country. Most people in this world are not equipt or qualified to judge other peoples personal lives. Worrying about how the other guy is slowly killing themselves is pointless. People take risks with their live on a daily basis and don’t even realize it. It’s only when something out of the ordinary comes along that the do gooders of this world come out of the wood work. They stand there and wring there hands and say “look isn’t this just awful”, and they don’t even realize how ridiculous they look.

Many of you seem to feel you have a moral right to criticize another’s lifestyle choices. But I ask you, how many of you are realy moral enough to take on that kind of responsibilty? As I see it, one of the problems we face as a society is the fact that, there are to many people worried about what their neighbor is doing and not enough about their own house.

I’ve never actually met a guy that was ‘into’ fat chicks….Are you sure you guys are real?

This isn’t some type of skinny conspiracy fuck with fat chicks to get them to think that men may actually find them attractive is it?

yea sure maybe to get laid, have your children, clean your house, cook your meals…. or thank God they could ‘overlook’ your weight because of your sparkling personality and ‘wonderful sense of humor’ …………oh, or there’s well she has such a pretty face…………

What the heck?! Men actually LIKE fat chicks?
And OMG they want to make us fatter?!?!
yikes …really don’t we have to deal with enough sh$%^t already just being as big as we are?
5′4″ 230ish, four kids, too much good cookin

Don’t crowd boys, line forms to the right….hehe

Justme, I love you…

(platonically, platonically…)

I agree 100% with justme. The way some of these people are enraged you would think they were paying the grocery bill for these fat fucks.

rcv, you talk like you are sure that you have the facts. yet what you say is an opinion. I’m not going to get into any (serious) flaming here, so I’ll continue.

heard of the Gaining Goddess? she is an online model, and is a feedee/foodee. her husband, I have been led to believe, is a feeder. He does not force her into gaining, she does it because she loves to eat, and the feel of her fat.

I am a feeder, and my fiancee is a feedee. she has recently shot passed 350 pounds, even though I prefered her at around 300. I don’t care what she weighs, really. She is always beautiful to me, and I know she enjoys gaining.

In all honesty, Feeder.co.uk is probably a bit dark and heavy, so it’s not really the best site for telling the world what every single person is like, who declares themselves “feeders.”

And if you’re going to start mocking us, then why not mock the anorexic?

i have a little sister how weights 17 1/2 stone
seeing the fat jigal and wable as she walks down the stairs to get 12 pack of mars bars and and a choclet milk shake seeing her bell flop over the shorts she got on then her hard atempted to walk up the stairs her bum exploding out her shorts and as she reches the top of the stairs stoping to chach her breathe back be for lying on her bed and eating a 12 pack of mars bars
then at lunch her mother brings in 2 big macs for her she crams them down and complanes shes still hungery so she gets a super sise piza you can see the belly growing the rolls and rolls cameing
but she loves it.

Go on girl eat

I AM SHOCKED AT THIS EXCHANGE. Not at what anyone has said - whatever floats your boat, even if it is a cyber wank (which some clearly are) or even cyber abuse (which we all have to bear, if we post). But what shocks me is the astounding illiteracy of some of those posting, with quite extraordinary spelling. What sort of education are these people getting?

‘It’s none of your business what two consenting adults do with their lives. Provid[ed] their actions don’t break the law, you should have nothing to say about it.’ Who’s being proscriptive now, ‘JustMe’? Why shouldn’t I experience feelings of repulsion when ‘consenting adults’ choose to spend their lives fucking eachother up to the point of irreversible damage, even death? Don’t I have the right to express my feelings? The illiteracy noted above is less shocking than the moral indolence that your stance implies. As social beings, we have not only a moral right but a moral duty to criticise. Criticism is communication. Criticism is honesty. Criticism is exchange - something a mealy-mouthed solipsistic brainwashed prig like yourself can hardly be expected to appreciate. It would seeem that you live in a bubble, consisting of not only the laws that protect you physically, but also the unchallenged set of relativistic formulae that prevent the slightest whiff of other people’s thoughts from penetrating.

To the idiot that calls itself Sneering English Villain, I never said you didn’t have the right to your own feelings on the subject. My problem is with the people who take their feelings and attitudes and inject them into other people’s lives and you strike me as one of those people. You call criticism an exchange. But an exchange of what? Ideas? Not the way you and your ilk would use it. I believe the criticism you have in mind is more of an invasion into the lives of the people YOU feel are morally and socially inferior. As I said before provided no laws are broken, what two consenting adults do with their personal lives is none of your business. It all boils down to a basic right of privacy. But I wouldn’t expect a socialist product of a European nanny state like yourself to even remotely understand the concept.

Ha,
“Sneering English Villain”… do you even know what half of what you just said means? Ever heard of Netiquette? You might want to look up on it. There’s not really any point in trying to use “long” words when you’re flaming somebody. It’s the lowest and probably the most stupid thing to do. If you didn’t like what he said, don’t try to insult him for it. Instead, give your view(s) with the sufficient backing-up. It gets things running more smoothly, believe me.

Yours, HiM (the hairy, angry Scotsman)

FAT Heaven
My perfect weekend. At 4:00pm I drove 15 miles through the country to my 700 pound girl friend’s house. The last time I saw her she was 550 pounds of dangling blubber. God, Oh MY GOD is she FAT,much fatter than before. Overlapping slabs of hanging FAT. A huge belly apron of pendulous dangling belly slop - All of her fat made my knees weak, she is the most thrilling pile of sex that ever existed. She was very hungry so I kissed her and left to get three extra large Sicilian pizzas. Eating and watching her eat two large pies was a heaven of sexual gluttony.

Then we started to kiss oh the feel of her deep soft overlapping flab got me harder and harder. I helped take her dress off and she laid back and lifted that huge apron of fat as she spread her flabby jiggling leg rolls apart. What a site - roll on top of roll of sloppy flaccid blubbery FAT!!! I started to sink my body into her huge rolls of stretch marked, cellulite bubbled flab. deeper deeper, I sank. I helped hoist her 150 pound belly apron of fat upward as I pulsated into her undulating fat. Then I sank into her fat flabby lips then plunged into her hot wet hole. Deeper harder in and out holding armfuls of blubber biting mouth fulls of soft sexual FAT.

I EXPLODED again and again — eight times in a row. then I fell into a deep three hour sleep. Awaking to the feel of her overhanging fat slop I got hard as a rock again - and again - I came. We made love over 30 times that week end. Her compulsive eating, her blubbery slop, her incredible love. What an absolute HEAVEN.

I really feel sorry for these freaks….I have know for sometime that the american people were mentally retarded and this feeder/feedee business
is just one prime example…Why does the male feeder himself not gain weight up to 600 to 800 lbs…Hell I thought partnership was 50/50…
another reason male feeders like this type of ugly
is he doesnot have to worry about her complaining about his looks,faults,body,sex or anything that he does. Where a nice looking slim built woman might not like what he has to offer…His dick might be too little… his nose might be too big.
or he just plain can’t fuck… he can’t even get a hard on when she has an attitude…so get slop sow so you can cum her attitude was destroyed along time ago.

Hey Molly, is English your second language? The termonology used here is feeder\feedee and thats exactly what it implies. The feeder does the feeding and the feedee does the eating and gaining. There is nothing 50/50 about it in this respect and no one claims that it is. The only controversy seems to stem for the fact that certain individuals claim it’s consensual. You would understand that if you were capable of any form of reading comprehension.

So being that you appear to be to stupid to even understand the issue at hand, don’t go shooting your mouth off and disparaging other people’s mental capacities. Especially when it appears that yours may be sub par.

I’m sorry to have been away so long as to just now be responding to the responses that followed my April 14th submission, but the following is what I have in response to those now. (Take note that anything in quotes is not my words, but the words of those I’m responding to.)

To Catka:
First off (”don’t bring God into this”), God is in Everything whether you like it or not! It is not up to us to bring Him into Anything.

Second off (”He above all won’t justify turning people into animals.”), the physical form of people is animals whether you like it or not! We are souls/spirits that live in animal bodies and feel what those bodies feel. We eat animal flesh and we desire animal flesh.

Then, third, I don’t know where you get your “seven main sins”, but my Christian background has taught me that a sin is a sin is a sin. “All have sinned and come short of the glory of God.” And, again, it is not for us to judge each other. God’s love will teach us, His children, what we need to do if we are doing wrong. This teaching that I speak of USUALLY DOES NOT come from a book.

To d-desade:
It is very true that our physical bodies crave sex nearly as strongly as they crave food and, as I said to Catka, if whatever we do is wrong, the loving powers that be will show us a different way.
As for living only once, my personal belief (from studies I’ve done and according to most major world religions, and even Christianity in its first centuries of existence) is that that’s not true. Reincarnation is a fact. Take it or leave it; but sooner or later, you’ll take it.

To Justme:
I agree that it’s nobody’s business what 2 consenting adults do behind closed doors, but I take it one step further than you do. You say, “Provide their actions do not violate the law”. However, I’m in America and so I must say that there are some ridiculous laws out there that think that it’s their business what people do even behind closed doors, and I ask that, if it’s behind closed doors, how are they going to find out? That would be invasion of privacy. It’s even invasion of privacy and unconstitutional to even make such laws because such laws are based on fanatical religious beliefs and this country was founded on freedom, including freedom in religious beliefs. As you said, “Most people in this world are not equipt or qualified to judge other people’s personal lives.” Well, how do you think that politicians are elected and laws are made? - by the rule of the majority, which is “most people”.

Even though it’s sad, I can’t help but to be amused in agreement and understanding of your words, “They stand there and wring their hands and say ‘look isn’t this just awful’, and they don’t even realize how ridiculous they look.”

I totally agree with your last paragraph too.

To toomuchgoodcookin:
I just looovvvve your sense of humor. God bless you.

To london:
I’m amused with agreement with your words. However, some of these people might know English only as a second language; but if not, their schooling must be lacking. In either case, the right thing to do is to just pray for them to learn better writing skills. They’re probably really nice people otherwise.

To Sneering English Villain:
What??!!! “As social beings, we have not only a moral right but a moral duty to criticise. Criticism is communication. Criticism is honesty. Criticism is exchange - something a mealy-mouthed solipsistic brainwashed prig like yourself can hardly be expected to appreciate. It would seeem that you live in a bubble, consisting of not only the laws that protect you physically, but also the unchallenged set of relativistic formulae that prevent the slightest whiff of other people’s thoughts from penetrating.”

I must admit that your entry is VERY thought-provoking. At first glance, I don’t like criticism. I see it as most people probably see it - as mean and narrow-minded, unaccepting of the “live and let live” policy, which allows God to correct what is wrong in our actions. However, I do have to admit that I do like criticism’s honesty, which you point out. Too many people are pretentious, leaving other people in the dark about things that they could benefit from knowing, which is a form of dishonesty. In this respect, I agree with you that criticism can be good. This is known as “constructive criticism”. However, criticism can also be bad, when it is not delivered properly. It can be very hurtful and destructive. Yes, we are a sensitive lot. But are we in such a bubble, as to not allow other people’s thoughts in, when we enter this website, read other people’s entries, write our own, and look for responses?

I challenge you to try to put yourself in the place of those you criticize.

To Justme’s second entry:
Even though I agree with you, we should avoid mud-slinging. This only brings us into the realm of doing the very thing that we are against.

To HiM:
I think you’re cool, and I agree with your response to Sneering English Villain. Read mine. I think you’ll agree too.

To molly:
Where do you get your definition of mentally retarded? You’d better watch out. Fate may make you that which you accuse others of being. Also, you seem to have a narrow-minded attitude about feeders. Guess what? I have an ex-husband that weighs at least 400 lbs. and I never got to more than 180 lbs. (unpregnant) while with him. Also, I weighed 130 lbs. in high school and I’m now a feedee, who weighs 215 lbs., which is a little past the preference of my current husband’s weight desire. However, he has loved me at any weight that I’ve been with him, ranging from 140-240, and I first reached 215 between 8 and 9 years ago while with him. I love to eat fattening foods, but I’m not heavier than I am only because I want to please him. Also, I like my lover having a chubby belly, which he sometimes has and sometimes doesn’t have. His weight has ranged between 169 and 210, in the time that we’ve been together, at the height of 5′10, and he usually weighs somewhere in the middle of this range with a round belly, probably because he knows that I like it. If you ask me, I think that calling any act that’s pleasing to a lover as being mentally retarded is mentally retarded.

Best wishes to all!

To group everyone feeder into a group is, in my opinion, outrageous. I have been a feeder for about 5 years now, and I have yet to see the person that I feed grow to the point of obesity. Yes, I am a feeder and an FA, but not every FA or feeder likes to see their mate grow to be 900 pounds. Personally, I like to be able to feed my partner, having them enjoy it themselves, and leave the option for them to gain a few pounds to them. I worry sometimes about my partner getting too large and contracting a heart disease, so I tend to stress not getting to the point of extreme obesity. But still, to think that people are classifying feeders as people who like to see their feedee grow to immense proportions is just… just, ugh!

LOVEEVERYONEANYWAY , I like where your head’s at. Keep it smart, man. More people should reply like that!

I have been doing some casual research on this weird shit for some time now, and the inescapable fact is any feeder who claims they don’t want their significate other to become grossly obese is LYING. Their whole M.O. is to feed their partener until they literally are just enormous piles of blubber. One deep seated recuring desire among feeders is to turn their partener into the world’s fattest person. We as a society have become so consumption crazy, that we now have people with sexual preferences for huge jabba the hut like inhuman blobs. WTF is going on?

Feeders, are in my opinion a blight on society, even NAFFA has come out against the practices of these cretins. Even though their numbers are small, they should be treated as any other sexual predator. Just look at how they operate. They find a lonely fat person with very low self esteem or in some cases mentally unstable. Then coerces and convinces them that fat is beautiful and bigger is better and slowly turns the poor slob into an eating machine, slowly killing them with food. The coercion that they use on their victim is almost inhuman. they usually prey upon the victim’s deepest insecurities and fears and all this just to satisfy their perverse sexual desires. How can any sane person defend this sick practice. I don’t care if there are no laws preventing this from happening, it still doesn’t make it right. Feederism in its extreme form is and always will be morally depraved.

To those of you who would defend these creatures, ask yourself this. How would you feel if your son or daughter fell victim to one of these sickos. Just imagine having to sit by and watch this bizzare and tragic scenario unfold in front of you. What would you do? how would you like it?

This sick shit needs to stop. Since our society is so willing to pass laws protecting obese people from discrimination, then why not protect these same obese people from feeders. I feel that feeders that cause the death or harm of a obese person should be punished to the fullest extent of the law.

Oh my fucking god! Who actually gets off on this crap? Are there really sick people that do this stuff to another person? How can any one think that a huge bloated dying whale is sexy. For the life of me I can’t fathom this kind of relationship. Hey its all right if your into big women but shit, 8-900 or 1000lbs thats just outrageous.
Just think about the logistics of the situation. Since they can’t move how would you wash a slob like that or better yet wipe their blimp size asses? Do these feeders enjoy being up to their elbows in elephant shit? Do they enjoy the smell? Or swimming the fat slobs sweat? What about feeding them? does a feeder work three jobs just to pay the food bill and if so when do the find the time to feed their fatty? These are some of the questions that come to mind and I’m not to sure I want the answers.
I’m not even going to touch upon the moral implication of such a relationship because I can’t even get past the gross nature of it all. It never ceases to amaze me what some people will do to get their jollies.

It really amuses me to read the outrage and revulsion some of you have for us feeders. Well I got news for you. Your moral outrage makes us laugh. This is reality and there is a lot of fucked-up shit out there. So get used to it, we feeders are least of your problems.
Like it or not, as long as their are fat pigs willing to sell their souls for a little loven and a life of over consumption we feeders are going to be there to take advantage of the situation.
Why are we to blame? why don’t you take a good look at the so called victims? Just how many of these obese people do you think would have contributed anything constructive to society anyway? Most would have ended up on public assistance because they are weak selfloathing parasites. So if you really stop to think about it we do society a service, we take these pigs in, care for them, make them feel loved and wanted and provide them with the pleasures they crave…FOOD as much as they can eat and then some. We even do the nasty jobs of cleaning them, something nurses in hospitals don’t even want to do. So what do you care if they get huge and die? We live with that problem not you. We’re the ones that have to pick up the pieces and start over.
So the next time you think of some fat 800lb slob as a victim, look at it from a perspective of reality . Feedees don’t deserve your sympathy any more than we feeders do, we’re just people getting our rocks off any way we can.

i don’t understand why everyone thinks the feedee is a victim. i love to have a man get turned on by watching me eat or feeding me. my belly feels so nice when it’s full and after a nice day or laying around the house and eating i usually have t he greatest sex (with myself or otherwise). now i’m not that big of a girl…5′2″ 160lbs….and i can see where it may be a problem when someone gets to large to function properly, but i see nothing wrong with liking weight gain. hell. my exboyfriend and i still update each other on girls we notice gaining from time to time. and everytime it makes me so hungry. please stop acting like the feedee is the victim here. I WANT TO BE FED.

Can I say that feederism is just as morally injust as the diet industry…

This is a very interesting thread..

First off, I’d like to say that I’m not biased against feeder/feedee relationships based on the sexual aspect. I believe that’s something personal and private, and to each his or her own. However, I am shocked that these relationships end up with such extreme results. There’s nothing wrong with some fat, but feeding your lover until she (I suppose it’s a female most of the time) gets medical complications is just wrong. I’m not saying that every feeder/feedee relationship ends up like that, but in a way it is abuse. The feeder may not have the intention of harming the feedee, but nevertheless the feedee does get harmed physically and that makes it the same as an abusive relationship, in my view. How can anyone live normally when she weighs 600 lbs? That’s like paralyzing someone on purpose. The feedee may want to be fed and dependent like that, but how do you know she’s not brainwashed? What one wants is not always what is best. Giving more food to an obese person that has health problems is like giving more heroin to a drug addict. Again, there are exceptions, but I still believe that most feeder/feedee relationships are wrong and harmful.

To London, all I want to say is that your post struck me as hilarious because it seemed so random. Good point, though.

You should have a look at this feeding video.

Lots of girls like to feed to grow big like me.

I AM CONFUSED ABOUT THIS BEHVIOR. NOT THE FEEDEE/FEEDER STUFF. I’M CLEAR THAT THIS IS SICK BEHAVIOR.
BUT I DONT UNDERSTAND THE ADMIRATION OF MORBID OBESITIY. I AM OBESE MY HIGHEST WEIGHT WAS 350 POUNDS AND FIVE NINE. I HAVE LOST 100 POUNDS AND WEAR A SIZE 18. I LOOK SO MUCH BETTER AND FEEL SO MUCH BETTER. I AM STILL LOSING. I HAVE DATED AND MARRIED. OF COURSE THE MEN I HAVE BEEN WITH ADMIRE BBW’S. AND THAT FINE. BUT HOW DOES MORBID OBESITY LOOK ATTRACTIVE. IM NOT TRYING TO BE BIAS. BUT A 250 EVEN 300 POUND WOMAN DOES NOT LOOK OR HAVE THE SAME ISSUES HAS AN 800 POUND WOMEN. WHEN I WAS OVER THREE HUNDRED POUNDS I HATED IT. MY PARTNER AT THAT TIME WAS WITH ME BEFORE I GOT THAT BIG AND ENCOURAGED ME TO LOSE. MY CONCERN IS THAT MY CURRENT PARTNER HAS A SECRET FANTASY FOR MORBID OBESITY. HE ONLY WANTS IT IN SECRET. HE ENCOURAGES ME TO LOSE WEIGHT AND WORKS OUT HIMSELF. BUT IN SECRETS HE LIKES LOOKING AND GETTING OFF TO MORBID OBSESE WOMEN. I DONT UNDERSTAND THIS BEHAVIOR AND IT IS CAUSING STRESS IN OUR RELATIONSHIP. I DONT KNOW WAHT HAS POSSESED ME TO POST HERE. BECAUSE I NORMALY WOULD NOT. I JUST NEED AN ANSWEAR. PLEASE ONLY SINCERE REPLYS.

Please don’t shout.

To Confused, first off please turn off your caplocks you’re shouting. Second your boyfriend appears to be a closet feeder. If he is secretly desiring a hugely obese women then you either have to just go with it and become a feedee or get out of that relationship. Eventually his secret sexual preferences will spill out into his real life and it will spell disaster for your relationship. Believe me, I speak from experience. I’m a feeder and was not always as open about it as I am now and it cost me a long term relationship when I finally came clean with my preferences.
As far as explaining this type of behavior goes, for me it has to do with going against society’s norms. A grossly fat woman purposely eating to gain weight is a turn on because most people think of it as deviant behavior. I also love the huge jiggling softness of a obese woman and everything that goes along with it and I mean everthing the good and the bad. When I married my wife she weighed almost 450lbs and was 5′4″ tall everyone said I was crazy to marry a woman like that. Now after three children and 10 years of marrage she weighs almost 690 incredible pounds and I would not change or reduce 1 once of her. The reaction my wife elicites from people when we are out in public is a never ending source of entertainment for us. The looks of shock, horror and amazement are just priceless. Also our sex life is outstanding and the bigger she gets the better it gets. It all comes down to personal preference and lifestyle choice.
I hope I explained this well enough to you because it is a difficult thing to explain. I think you and your boyriend need to sit down and talk about what each of your needs and desires really are.

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I don’t know what everyones problem is but it’s nowhere near as bad as some of you make it! Some guys just like fat girls, simple as that. So what! They desire more of a good thing. Many Feeders are not like Darkfeeder and they all don’t desire they’re feedee to become mountainous blobs of fat. Feeders and feedees are different just like everyone else. Some have limits, some don’t. Many feeders love they’re feedees for more than their voluptuous bodies. They enjoy their companionship and company and wish to keep them around as long as possible. There are way bigger problems in the world and this is no worse than Drinking too much or smoking 3 or 4 packs of cigarettes a day or having promicuous sex every weekend.

If you’re not into it, so be it.
but don’t look down on those who are. I’m sure you like something they find disgusting as well.

All this talk of victims and predators is ridiculous. The truth of the matter is both feeders and feedees are in a way victims. Victims of there own selfish desires and greed. Nobody can convince me that feedees are just passive victims of lurking predatory feeders. It is absolutely insane to believe that a person would unwittingly sit there and eat themselves into immobility simply because their partner deceived and cohered them to. Even if you were the stupidest person on the planet, wouldn’t you notice that you could no longer fit through a door or no longer could walk? Wouldn’t that set off alarms in your head, like hey this is bad for me! I should get help! Tell me what the fuck does it take? What kind of idiots do these fat pigs take us for?

So here is my take on feeders and feedees. Feedees eat and get huge because they want to. Feedees generally go along with their feeders because they want to be taken care of and live a life of sloth and gluttony. Gobbling up everything they can including food, money and attention. I’m sorry, the fact of the matter is there are a lot of greedy gluttonous pigs out there. Some are just more willing to degrade themselves to achieve their life’s ambition of being totally dependent leaches. Look at the facts feedees usually only regret their life’s choices after its too late. Even after being repeatedly told by doctors to lose weight, they still ignore the warnings. Then and only then, when they are at deaths door, gasping and farting out their last breaths do they decide to beg for help. What’s even more ridiculous is that they usually claim that it’s the feeder’s entire fault that they are so obese. They play the roll of the victim so well. Once free of their so-called feeder they look to other people for aid and sympathy and almost never take any responsibility for their own situation. Truth be told feedees are just as responsible for their downfall as their feeders are. Maybe more so, because as the old saying goes you reap what you sew.

Wasnt there an episode like this on Seinfeld. :P

feedees are sexy… thank god for freedom of speech

Feedees are disgusting…thank god for harpoons.

tu chez,

still think there sexy though

You fatties and your fat pig children suck, let them eat till they die screaming like the pigs that they are. Then butcher their hog like carcasses and feed the starving people of the world.

A lot of the posts on here are extremely ignorant. Personally I think being 800lbs or whatever isn’t very pleasant but its what people enjoy.
I also think that in some feeder/feedee relationships there is an element of BDSM but thats ok. (I’m sure some of you might take offence to that comment but it’s true, or at least for me it is.)
What people need to realise is that not every feeder/feedee relationship is going to have the same preferences. Yes some might be founded on abuse, and thats wrong, but its the same with any other relationship.
Whilst some might prefer their partner to become so huge that they cannot even move, others would just like a bit of extra meat.
I don’t think you can generalise this at all. Yes there are extremes, but generally a concensual loving feeder relationship is fine.
I mean come on, each to their own.

This is a subject that is very near to me. My mother was and still is a feedee and my father a feeder and growing up in a household like that has scared me deeply. I am the oldest of five children and left or should I say fled my home shortly after graduating H.S. My earliest memories were of my father forcing my mother to eat huge quantities of food every day. He would literally force the food down her throat and abuse her physically as well as mentally. My mother started life as an obese child and became a morbidly obese adult and weighed as much as 400lbs when my father met and married her. She also had little self worth and absolutely no backbone when it can to anything my father wanted. By the time I was old enough to attend school my mother had already become to fat to leave the house. My early memories of her were of a huge woman with a bloated sad face unable to even walk across our small living room without assistance of a cane or walker. It also seemed that she was always pregnant and was constantly nursing one of my brothers or sisters. By the time her last child was born, I was 11 and was forced to take on many of the daily chores of caring for my mother while my father was at work. At this time she could no longer leave her bed and was eating continuously without my father forcing her too. I guess after years of my father’s abuse and feeding she just broke and gave up and gave in to my father’s desires.
By the time I reached junior high I was taking care of my house bound mother from the time I got home from school till the time my father got home from work. I was required to make her dinner and whatever food she wanted, wash her gross sweating rolls of lard flesh, and worst of all help her with going to the bathroom. Then I was required do my homework, look after my younger brothers and sisters and have dinner ready for my father when he got home. If I failed to do any of these things to either of my mother’s or father’s satisfaction I was punished, which usually meant being beaten by my father. When my father would finally get home he would close himself in the bedroom with my mom and force-feed her until she would almost pass out. Then he would call us kids into the room, make cruel jokes about her and call her derogatory names and encourage us to do the same. Most times my mom would just laugh it off, playing the part of the jolly fat woman but deep down she must have been desperate to escape.
I wasn’t the only one to suffer under the yoke. As my sisters and brothers got older they too had to assume similar duties. As time went by and the more help my mom received the less she would do for herself. She became more and more demanding, combative and verbally abusive. Her own despair at being trapped in her pathetic life would continuously spill over as anger and resentment towards her own children. By the time I left home she must have weighed well over 900lbs and resembled an enormous sweating inhuman blob. Trapped by her own self-loathing gluttony and her revolting bloated body, she became a terrifying raving monster with an insatiable appetite and never-ending list of demeaning demands. That was 7 years ago and my mother’s condition has only worsened since then. She is now to the point where she can no longer breath even when being pumped with oxygen from a compressor. I expect that when she dies, which will be soon, a wall will have to be removed from their house just to remove her body. What they will do with it, god only knows. I only know that I wish to be as far away from it as possible.
I realize that my experiences may be from a different perspective than the rest of the comments here but I feel that it needed to be said. Anyone pursuing this type of extreme lifestyle should bare in mind the emotional scares that you freaks can cause when children are misused during your pursuit of you’re deviant sexual gratification. Personally I don’t give a fuck if you’re a sick diseased turd and eat yourself of feed your partner to death just don’t have children while doing it.

Many people seem to have the misconception that Feeder/Feedee relationships are abusive….that’s just plain not true (at least for me it’s not true)I’m a feeder to my girlfriend…and let me tell you for me it’s not about domination at all…I just like the way chubbier women feel…is that really so bad? it’s just a preference …and actually I suppose there IS a factor of dominance…but also one of submission…see to me when I see my girlfriend and she’s bigger than me and when I’m right up against her stomache I seem tiny and quite honestly it makes me feel very submissive…so it has aspects of both so it’s very well balanced and definetly NOT abusive…hell I go to everyone single one of her doctors apointments to make sure that she’s okay…and so far..she has been and I’ve gotten her from 130 to 203 so yeah…I don’t call that abusive….although there ARE abusive ones out there…they definetly aren’t in the Majority…and quite honestly I’m getting quite sick of the misconception that every single feeder is abusive…people do it because they don’t understand it and try to find any and every grounds to hate it on…and plus it’s just easy to clump people together instead of ACTUALLY learning about people as indivduals…I’ve liked bigger girls since I was 4…and I’m 18 now…and I’m astonished by how many people just can’t accept the idea of diffrent preferences…because that’s ALL this is…a preference.

and then again there are some people who hate feedee’s just because they hate fat girls to begin with…in which case your just narrow-minded and I pity you because your views of the world shall forever be conformed by your own narrow mind and you will never get so see the full picture of this lovely world of ours…(also I apologize for posting twice in a row because I know it bugs some people…)

Even though fat women turn me on and all this feeding business too (i just jerked off reading some of the comentaries); one must accept that the whole feeder/feedee idea is pretty twisted. Heck, i’m not even american, and in my country (Colombia) such an idea would be taken as worthy of a mentally ill person. What i fear is that all the feeder/feedee business becomes a merely sexual question, with no feelings involved. And, as we all know, without love, sex is meaningless. From some comentaries i’ve read, it seems to me that it’s all a sexual fetish, with no true love from either part. I hope i’m wrong, and God forgive me for jerking off and reading this webpage.

I find it somewhat depressing that in a weight obsessed world we see only the extremes represented by the media.

I happen to find chubby girls absolutely adorable. This is not because I have some sinister desire to rob a girl of her self asteem and thereby dominate her. I like chubby girls because when I look at them, I get aroused. It’s as simple as that. I love nothing more than a cute pot belly and a bum I can park my bike in. It is no more a choice for me than it is a choice for a gay man to be attracted to men.

And I’m not alone. There are many, many men and women who are attracted to a more ’substantial’ partner. (Substantial when compared to the media-projected ‘norm’.)

But when was the last time you saw a documentary about people like us? You never have. Why? Because it’s boring. And The truth often is.

So there are only two types of men represented by the media: The ‘normal’ one’s who like a size 4-8, and the ‘freakish’ one’s who like a woman the size of a bus. And all of you ladies between size 10 and size 20, well, according to the media NOBODY finds you attractive. You are sexual refugees.

Of course, that is the size range of most of the women on earth.

Let us not forget the practices in Afica of fattening up their women to obesity. In some cultures fat truly is attractive. It’s the norm. With western eyes it looks barbaric, but with African eyes western women look like insects.

When you boil it down feederism is really an over glorified fetish, but a fetish that can be moderated and intergrated into life. Its sort of in the same catagory as S&M. I suppose that sorts it out, I think S&M is freaky, but I don’t disagree with it. Im sure many people into S&M think feederism is weird and wrong, many of them probably won’t disagree with it.

However its the people with the loudest hate who get noticed and as a result distort the truth and focus on the extremes in order to prove a point. Feedees become freak shows in the eyes of the media and it is banished into the realms on an underground cult.

Unlike S&M the products of feederism are more extensive and permanent. You get fat, odds are you’ll be like that the rest of your life. S&M can be secretive, there is no lasting visible effect, at least I hope not.

Ok, basically what im getting at is justifying feederism. Feederism is only justified if the couple truely love eachother for who they are… a paradox, isn’t the feeder only into the altering of someones physical appearance and, therfore, who they are in the first place? Yes, some feeders are, they are the ones to avoid.

Those who have more respect (or restraint) will love someone enough not to force their partner to do something against there will. Men who are FAs and arent only attracted to the fattening process but actually adore the features of a BBW. Those are the ones who will love their girlfriends. A girlfriend first a feedee second. However we hear very little about these relationships.

I suppose you could catagorise feederism into two groups: Intensive and temperate. Intesive being feederim and the fattening of a woman either against her will and or only being attracted to her because of her weight gain, is likely to dump her if weight gain stops.

Temperate is having a girlfriend who gains weight either because she’s comfortable with it or she wants to. Relationship will go deeper than simply feederism.

Then again theres probably a spectrum where different people fit in towards each end.

Well that was simply me trying to justify feederism in genuine loving relationships rather than something abusive and underground. Feederism should not be a fetish taken lightly.

My brother is a Firefighter/EMT and he was called out not long ago to aid the local ambulance crew with a woman who was extremely obese. In fact, this woman was so large, she had to have a stool to rest her stomach on to be able to stand up. The men were going to lift her onto the stretcher to get her into the ambulance but she insisted on standing up and getting on it herself, saying it would be easier for all concerned given her size. When she went to stand, she missed laying her stomach on the stool as she normally did and the weight of it dropped, ripping one of the main arteries from her heart, killing her instantly. There was nothing any of the emergency medical crew there could do to save her life.

Occurances such as this can and do happen ALL the time to people of such large size. I cannot count the times we’ve heard of calls that he’s gone on where people have had to endure pain and suffering that simply was not necessary all because they were abnormally large. But, what always sticks with him most (with all of the crew really) is the embarassment and humiliation these people endure. The guys take every measure to try to make things as easy for them as possible because they know by the look on the poor patient’s face, not to mention the tears in their eyes, what they’re going through, but nothing can ever take away the pain and the heartache they have to go through when a slab has to be called in from the morgue because they’re too heavy for the stretcher or when the floor of the ambulance is buckled from the weight of them (yes, that has actually happened before).

Having someone you “love” be so large isn’t something to be proud of or boastful about. It isn’t something that you try to encourage… at least, not if you’re in your right mind. If you really love a person, with all your heart, then I should think you would want to be with them and grow old with them. If you love someone you certainly don’t encourage them to walk down a road that leads to their own eminent death and destruction, especially one that will, in the end, very likely be full of pain, heartache, embarassment, misery, and a miriad of other hurtful emotions. This so-called “feeder” isn’t the one that’s going to have to suffer through such things. He’s not the one that’s going to feel such pain and heartache. If he really cares about the woman in his life, maybe he should take that into consideration.

But that’s the problem, isn’t it. Men of that mentality don’t think, do they? They don’t care what her ultimate outcome is. What they care about is what they get from the “here and now”. Thinking ahead isn’t even a consideration is it? What a shame…

To “Concerned”…

Wow, that was presumptious!

Incedentally, I suppose all of you against feederism are also against Anorexia? Not that they’re related ata all. Anorexia is *actually* a mental disorder, I believe. I do appologise if I am wrong, of course.

Feederism is, as I see it and as I practise it, somethingh for both parties to enjoy. As long as they’re both enjoying it, then I think it’s classed as feederism; an erotic act (or fetish, if you so wish) which both partners should enjoy.

But the moment the feedee stops enjoying it, is forced into gaining, it is abuse.

Of course, this is just my opinion.

I am not a feeder, what i do like though is watching a women who really enjoys eating and doesnt care about calories, i love it when they say “ummmm” as they are eating. I went to McDonalds once with a girl who ordered a shit load of food, i just thought that was class, its def a sexual thing for me. Can anyone explain this fetish??? I love big women, stretch marks etc, i wish i could be round them all the time but they must have a womanly figure, when girls get like a tub shape its not attractive.

I am a 35 year old father of 2. I love big fat grannies, and I wish my wife would join in.

I definately agree in the fact that you shouldn’t encourage anyone to become a complete blob, and that feeders need to restrict themselves. Kind of like the anorexia and bulimia issues that have been going around lately.

I am an FA myself, and enjoy good pudge in women. I have to say I don’t like completely obease women, just a good belly and theighs, and a figure. But when it does become a health risk I don’t know… 300? Then it is very much time to step in and really to lose weight. The partner does need to get fat for the compainion if he or she wants to anyway. You can’t let your sex drive control your love life. It isn’t shallow to have one, but it becomes when you can’t look out for yoru companions health. You can live without fofilling a simple fetish. Thousands do. Including ones with the very skinny attrations.

For me, nothing is hotter than watching a very fat girl eat. The heavier the girl and the more she eats the better. FA-UK you sound like your ideal parter would be a foodee, this is a person who gains most pleasure from the act of eating in itself, but without the desire to gain weight. Personally the gain is the most exciting part for me, 400+lb women are just incredible in bed!

uh, there is a difference between things like anorexia and this, btw- they’re mental disorders. just being skinny isn’t, though.

It really is amazing the emotions the subject of feederism elicits from people. Especially the first time they hear of it. Because of it’s widely varying degrees of intensity it can really be a tricky subject to defend. As many of the earlier posters have expressed, not all feeders are willing to grow their feedees into immobile monsters. But there are those that do. I know this for certain because I was married to one for almost twenty years.
When I read the comment by “Darkfeeder” I actually got the chills. That individual reminds me so much of my ex-husband it isn’t even funny. Until about a year ago I was married to a man that wanted nothing more but to feed me until I could not move, even if it meant he had to do every last thing for me. The really sad part of it is he almost succeeded. I was married to him for almost twelve years and I have always been a fat woman with a love for food. But in that 12 years, I went from being a 375 lb, active, SSBBW to a wheezing, barely mobile, 680+lb, eating machine and believe me when I say, it seemed to have happened almost without realizing it.
Many people including my parents have asked me how I could have let myself go so badly and my answer has always been the same. For a fat woman like me who has always had issues with food and was always told not to eat and lose weight, feederism can very rapidly become an escape. It becomes an escape from the pressure to conform to societies ideas of beauty. At first it’s fun and in a sense, liberating and practiced in conjunction with incredible hot steamy sex, it becomes an irresistible drug. Your partner tells you your fat is beautiful and that eating is sexy. That it’s right for you to indulge in your oral pleasures and that it will make you a happier, more, well adjusted person. After a few years of this you begin to believe it and you live in denial. You convince yourself that you can control your appetite and the weight gain. But in reality you’re fooling yourself because by this time you’ve given up complete control of yourself and food becomes the driving force in your life, and that’s when things really spin out of control. I basically became a slave to food and a prisoner of my own gluttony and all the while my ex took full advantage of this. Without getting into anymore of the gory details, for me it became a nightmare of food, sex, physical and emotional torture.
But about three years ago I did receive a wake up call, it was called pregnancy. It changed my whole outlook on life. I finally began to realize that maybe there was more to life than just eating and living with the abuse. At over 600 lbs pregnancy was an incredible challenge. There were times when my doctor and I didn’t think I was going to make it. But at the end of 9 months and a hellish delivery I was blessed with a healthy baby girl that I named Patricia Marie and my life was forever changed. One year later I filed for divorce from my husband and started my road to recovery. With the help of some great medical professionals and inspiration from my child I have lost over 100lbs and have started to get my life back.

Karen, I think your post was very interesting.

And yes, see- there are cases like this, I can’t deny it. But there are things like this in almost every sort of fetish.

again, than you for your post. Quite personally, I’m glad to hear that your doing something to get your life back. Some people can suit perfectly being over 600, it is true, but more often than not, there are many complications.

Down here in the deep south, we like our women large, and bare-footed with just a flimsy thing or two on, running ’round the house. It don’t hurt none if they’re hot and sweaty either. There’s nothing like taking a break from fishing and getting a little bit of tight pussy from a large woman on a riverbank in the middle of the night while the cool breezes blow up your ass. Oh yeah!!
By the way, ain’t nobody can cook like a big fat woman, cause they know what eating good food is all about.

To dixie-moon: Bert! is that you, you son of a behive, you talking about Eula mae again? She’s done run off with one of them fellers from the carnival since you and mama’s been in jail.

Ok, I read most of the posts…. You people seem to believe that it is just the men that fatten the women, oh no, in some cases both gain, in other cases it is the woman that fattens the man. My girlfriend and I are both gaining weight.

Doesnt it hurt when chicks double your weight are sitting on your dick?

This is just another example of western excess, you people thinking it’ “normal” to be 400lbs are way off the mark, the only way your obese ass can even survive on this planet is because of our advanced society that was built by people who would of thought of your little fetish as horrifying and would have probably sent your ass out into the woods, you would never survive in the woods or away from western society without becoming a meal for atleast several predators. It’s NOT NATURAL. And next time you think about stuffing your face think about all the children in 3rd world countries that could probably live several weeks just on the energy of just 1 pound of your pathetic fat, you sicken me, get some help.

Just wanted to add a few comments, not all guys that like fat girls are into feeding, and its quite a seperate thing from a preference for bigger girls…I love BBW (Big Beautiful Women) and SSBBW (Super Sized Big Beautiful Women)but i have never really understood the feeding thing i do believe it has to be about some control element on the mans side, but its also a submissive act on the feedee, but its not abuse if both parties agree to it

Why do i like fat chicks? i dunno really im a big guy myself but regardless i just like it when a girl has bigger breasts, bigger boobs, bigger thighs and i find the soft flesh on a womans belly a real turn on, i dont think there is an answer why do some people like blondes, some people like leather or BDSM or whatever, its just what we are and if it makes people happy let them be free to explore it

No, it doesnt hurt a bit when a woman more than twice my weight sits on my dick. Their soft bodies cushion and spread their weight.

The largest woman I have been with (and am still currently seeing) weighs about 450-500lbs and is somthing like 5″3.

She is incedible in bed, as she bounces her entire sexy body wobbles, her body bulging in different places depending on her position.

To all the fat-haters in here, get a life.
There are big women out there and men who adore them.

Amen jeff, couldn’t have said it better.

Hey Karen, do I really scare you that much? Or are you just afraid of your inner self? You can make all the inane noise you want about being a victim but those of us that have been there know the truth. I know you really want to gorge and be a lazy fat slob. If you didn’t you, wouldn’t have gotten so fantastically fat in the first place. Why don’t you tell us all the truth? Deep down you loved every minute of your former lifestyle. Because in actuality you were just as in control of your relationship as your feeder was. Think about it fatty, who was it that wiped your enormous ass when you couldn’t reach? Who was it that washed your sweaty blubber rolls. Who cooked, cleaned and supported you all those years? Who had sex with you and pleasured you when you were too gross to even be considered by another man? Who powdered, moisturized and cared for your fat filled bloated carcass? I could go on and on because in many ways you got the best of the deal. I know you enjoyed every minute of it. I’ve seen the gleam in a fat, feedees eyes when she is being fed all her favorite foods. I have experienced the air of satisfaction and control an obese feedee exudes while forcing her feeder to do all the unsavory choirs necessary to keep her comfortable. You talk about your ex-husband like he was some kind of fiend. But in reality you loved what he did for you as well as to you. You know he worshipped you and was probably destroyed by your decision to divorce. You were and still are an all consuming parasitic blob and deep down you still acknowledge this.
So why don’t you be true to yourself and come look me up. I’ll keep you and treat you like the fat, deviant, oral, pleasure, loving princess that you truly are. I feed you all your favorites until you burst. Believe me you will live a short but very happy decadent life, with everything you will ever need or want. All you simply have to do is ask and it will be yours. So stop this charade and be the gorgeous, sexy, food, swilling, beauty you were born to be.

I’ll be waiting to hear from you.

Darkfeeder

i would love to have a bigger lady. there so loving and are very good in bed. besides that i wish i could find one. i would love to have a good roll in the hay with one . help me find one pls. i have more than enough for the right bigger lady.

Okay, it’s been 6 months since I last checked onto this site and the following are my new responses:

To Fatforme - June 27th:
You seem cool and maybe sexy. Your last sentence would be good advice for about any couple.

To Sofuckingwhat - July 5th:
You’re the first entrant that’s inspired me to write my mental point of view as a feedee. Frankly, I really don’t like to be waited on, and I don’t really have to be. I weigh about 224 lbs., I’m 5′3″, I’m rather a (mostly mental) masochist, and I like to wait on my man. However, I see weightgain on a woman, that is prodded by my/her man - particularly in a society like ours - as a sort of mental S&M. On my very first date, when I was 14, I noticed that my boyfriend seemed to be buying more food for me to eat than I was used to eating. So I let him know that I had lost 8 lbs. over the summer and it seemed that he was going to make me gain it all back. I weighed 112 lbs. on that date. Then he responded that he’d not only make me gain the 8 lbs. back, but he’d make me gain an additional 8 lbs. so that no one else would want me. He wasn’t a sicko. He was a really cute and intelligent guy that I’d known since I was 4 years old and, honestly, his statement kind of turned me on. His statement might have been born out of insecurity and self-centeredness, but it brought out this innate feeling inside of me - a feeling of enjoying a guy exerting this kind of control over me to some extent. It seemed sadistic, but I didn’t know what that word meant then. I just knew that I liked it. The whole idea, in fact, of women being controlled by men, was such a turn-on to me, and I was still a virgin. Four years after that, my first fiance’ also tried to control me by putting weight on me. I was in the D.E.P. for the Air Force and there was a weight limit that I wasn’t too far from. So he tried to make me too heavy to enlist. My experience has been, and a Reader’s Digest article I’ve read has also indicated, that men often do like to control women by putting weight on them. I have found this to be a big turn-on to a certain extent. However, I don’t think that feedees are totally helpless victims. Also, I believe in catharses. However, Hollywood doesn’t provide such things for feeders and feedees. They could, but they don’t. I’d love to see feeder/feedee soft porn films by the dozens. Would anyone else here? If they did provide such films, though, they should provide a wide variety of start and finish weights for the feedees and have a realistically corresponding proportion of the sex roles of feeders and feedees being played.

To Caressfg - July 13th:
Applause. Applause.

To Caressfg - Sept. 20th:
We’re not God. It’s not up to us to have to justify feederism. If it happens within a couple with enjoyment on both parts, who should care? No one! By the way, I liked your probable accidental pun in the last sentence of your entry on this date.

To Nofatchicks - July 14th:
While we’re thanking God, let us remember the commandment, “Thou shalt not kill.”

To hatespigs - August 5th:
Luke 6:37 (New Living Translation)
Stop judging others, and you will not be judged.
Stop criticizing others, or it will all come back
on you. If you forgive others, you will be forgiven.

To pebbles - August 15th:
I’m a feedee, and I believe you are certainly
right about the feeder/feedee relationship being at least a little S&M and that everyone has their own taste variations with it.

To Freeatlast - August 15th:
How old are you? You seem so full of hate.

To Lee - August 31st:
You indicated that you had gotten your girlfriend from 130 lbs. to 203 lbs. How delightful. My husband got me from about 145 lbs. to about 225 lbs. It’s so deliciously enticing to go against the sermons of society, isn’t it? And I appreciate you posting twice, you sexy thing. Please don’t take me wrong by that last comment.
I guess I just find feeders SO sexy and mine lost interest in feeding me a while ago. So now I use feederism literature to get off to.

To Charles - September 1st:
What a turn-on it was to me reading that you jerked off to these commentaries. Mmm. Guys like you are very sexy to me. As far as love with sex goes - sex can be fun and stress-relieving in any case, but consideration and caring for the other person should also always be present. This doesn’t require marriage, though. Don’t worry so much. Caring seems to come natural for you. God’s not going to hate or punish you for relieving your urges with jerking off to websites as long as you’re not depriving someone who needs you to have sex with them.

To Fabio - September 2nd:
You’re a sweet, sexy guy too, and I agree with you about the media except that you need to understand that the media is about advertising products to make us what the popular thing is to be, which is usually what is the hardest thing to be. In countries that prosper, where there’s a lot of fattening food, skinnyness is what is desired and what is in the media. In poor countries, where there is scarcity of any kind of food, however, what we consider obesity is what is desired. It seems that we are a rather contrary lot. In reality, from what I understand, normal guys like girls either in the size 2-8 range or in the size 10-16 range. The rest are the real rebels, but they shouldn’t be ashamed of that. They and fat- bottomed girls are what make the rocking world go ’round.

To Concerned - September 30th:
So many people go through pain and suffering without being abnormally large. I know. I’m watching my mom go through it. I agree with “Sofuckingwhat” - “Truth be told, feedees are just as responsible for their downfall as their feeders are”. However, it’s not just that. Our society is so pathetic about this weight issue. Very large people shouldn’t have to be any more embarrassed for over-eating than heart and lung patients are for smoking and liver patients are for alcoholism. People encourage their loved ones to smoke, drink, take harmful drugs (even those from doctors), etc. However, they’re not picked on like obese people are. . .and who’s to say how much someone cares for someone else?

To Darkfeeder:
You’re my prize entrant. You seem like you could be very sexy and very playfully sadistic, and yet possibly too dangerous to get close to. Do you actually hate plump women or would you care to help ME with my orgasms? If you’ve been reading the entries, I probably seem like a slut to you; but I’ve truly only been with 3 guys in the past 13 years, and that’s by choice. Sure, I’ve put on some weight and I weigh about 224 lbs., but I weighed only about 130 lbs. when I graduated from high school and I’ve had plenty of admirers. So do you want to have some verbal fun or whatever? You’ve gotten me curious about you.

To James Bond III and jeff:
Right on! Right on! Right on!

To ted gramer and whatthehell:
People like you are to be avoided. I’m sorry. I’ll pray for you.

LOVEEVERYONEANYWAY

To LOVEEVERYONEEVERYWAY:

So, you’re curious about me and you think I might possibly be a little dangerous. Well, I’m not really, dangerous, at least I don’t think so. But my ex-girlfriend/fiancé’s family might not agree. But I never claimed entering into a feeder/feedee relationship with me was for the faint of heart. If you don’t mind my asking, (because you have me curious) why would a seemingly emotionally and sexually mature woman such as you need help with her orgasms? Is your current feeder is not getting the job done? Or are you just bored and looking for a little play time?

Talk to me,
Darkfeeder

To Fatforme:
Because of some of your words indicating your inclination toward “going against society’s norms” and liking things that “most people think of as deviant behavior”, I’ve got to ask you something - if you’re still around. Do you like Alice Cooper by chance?

To Darkfeeder:
First off, I was kind of surprised at your rather prompt response to my post to you, but thank you for that.

Secondly, you got my call sign wrong. It’s LOVEEVERYONEANYWAY, not LOVEEVERYONEEVERYWAY. Of course, I realize that there’s a chance that this was no accident, and I guess that I can see how you might interpret my actual call sign as meaning nearly the same thing as what you typed it as. However, the meaning that I had intended was rather like LOVEEVERYONEREGARDLESS. I mean, I think that people should love each other regardless of their imperfections, which we all have, and regardless of their deviances, which are inevitable since we are all individuals. I actually derived my call sign from the bumper sticker slogan that I saw, “Praise God Anyway”. I just liked “Love Everyone Anyway” better, and I thought that most people probably would. Although the idea of loving everyone EVERY way provokes intriguing thought upon my very open mind, I realize that most people are restrictive regarding who they have sex with, and I respect that. I just don’t think that people should be so restrictive regarding loving others as people, which are things that they themselves (or we ourselves) are. By the way, how did you derive your call sign?

Next, to answer your 3-in-1 question about my wondering if you would care to help me with my orgasms - As I wrote in my response to “Lee”, my feeder “lost interest in feeding me a while ago”. After I reached 180 lbs., he lost interest. Then I continued gaining weight only because he liked cooking and he had gotten me addicted to his cooking. However, I don’t weigh any more now (at about 224 lbs.) than I did 8 years ago. I’m still with my feeder, though, and have been for the past 13 years. The other 2 people that I’ve been with in that time are close male blood relatives of his. I’ve been with each once - in threesomes with my feeder (er ex-feeder) when he double-teamed me with them. He hasn’t been into putting more weight on me nor even fantasizing about it anymore, though. However, I still have fantasies about it myself, and it’s also true that I am looking for some added spark for my sex life (or, as you put it, “bored and looking for a little play time”).

I got another question. When you talked so derogatorily about “fat” women, you seemed like you might not really like them. What are your true feelings about them and, if you do really like them, why did you talk so negatively about them? I can understand negativity if you’ve been hurt. You don’t have to worry about me doing that (that is unless you come to scare me too much, which would cause me to disappear into thin air). I’m a very sensitive person regarding mine and even others feelings. I’m not looking for anything serious, but I would like a true and caring friend that I can exchange a lot of fun with. By the way, I keep no secrets from my “ex-feeder”. I’m just not like that. He knows about our little correspondence, and he knew even before you responded to what I wrote you before. He also said that he was turned on when I told him that you responded tonight, AND he is VERY heterosexual. I mean, he’s gotten intrigued by a website that he found about wife-sharing, and we’ve fantasized about that idea a lot over the years.

Are you still curious about me? Thanks to your prompt (somewhat enticing) response, I’ll be thinking about you when I masturbate tonight.

Damdest brunch of screwed up hillbillies I have ever seen. you can’t love someone when you are encouraging and assisting them to ” eat themselves to the grave” you people have painted some rosy pictures…however, imagine on a 90 + day you are laying under this “woman” who is sweating all over you and she has a big wet spot under each tit and up along her butt crack!!!!!!!!!yuk!!!!!!!! no thank you!!!

To tony:

A lot of this is game-playing. However, everyone has different tastes, and you’re entitled to yours. Just let others be entitled to theirs also. If it wasn’t meant for some guys to be interested in fat women, there wouldn’t be fat women.

To tony:

Furthermore, as my guy friend just pointed out to me, if it’s 90+ degrees, ANYONE would be sweating.

To LOVEEVERYONEANYWAY:
Don’t be surprised by the quickness of my response. I check this site every few days. I find most peoples reactions to feederism fascinating. I find it hysterical how the vast majority find it so repulsive. It always amazes me how seemingly normal people feel the need to criticize things they have no clue about and how they believe everything they hear or read in the media.

Sorry about screwing up your call sign, my mistake. To answer your question about my feelings for fat women, I have to say I love fat women. I wouldn’t have a woman any other way. But what I guess you’re referring to is some of my feelings of dissatisfaction for my last relationship. Without going into a lot of detail, lets just say after nine incredible years of devotion, it went bad due to the meddling of her immediate family. I guess I have trouble hiding some of my anger towards what has happened. It’s still pretty raw. Believe me when I say I don’t have any animosity toward all fat women, just certain ones.

As far as my call sign goes, “Darkfeeder” is a sometimes, used term among people involved in feederism. A darkfeeder is the type of feeder that is more intense than the so-called norm. Of course as with anything, there is a range of just how intense they can be.
They can range from extreme enablers to sadistic force feeders. I like to think of myself as somewhere in the middle of that range. Although most darkfeeders like myself feel the extreme urge to grow their feedee to mammoth proportions, they are also the ones that tend to be the most meticulous when it comes to their feedees daily needs. The outside world would view us as insecure, monstrous, control freaks. But as usual, they would be wrong.

So your ex-feeder is into threesomes and is intrigued by wife swapping. That could turn out to be very interesting for you. I know you said that you both have fantasized about wife swapping, but how do you really feel about it? Do you really think you could get past the fantasy stage and go through with it? In years past my ex-girlfriend and I used to host a New Years Eve orgy/gang bang of sorts. It was usually three or four other guys and sometimes their girlfriends, we would all get together and just let it happen. The only problem with it was that it could cause some rather awkward moments throughout the rest of the year. You tend to never look at your friends the same after that. I’m not saying that things like that aren’t fun, because they sure as shit are. But if you two decide to go through with anything like that, just be careful.

To Tony:
You know what I do when it’s ninety plus degrees and I want to have sex with a gorgeously huge woman? I turn on the central AC. That’s just what us screwed up hillbillies do when it gets fucking hot. Besides it really doesn’t what size your woman is or what the ambient temperature is. Because if the two of you are not breaking a sweat during sex, you aren’t doing it right.

To Darkfeeder:

You seemed to misunderstand something that I wrote again, but this time it was probably at least as much my fault for not explaining it very well in the first place.

Your words indicated that you thought that I was talking about the threesomes (that my partner and I had had with other guys) and the wife-sharing (I indicated our interest in) being 2 different things. That was probably because of a difference in the terms (one mine and one from a website) and my reference to us having done one (the threesomes) and us being intrigued by and fantasizing over the years about the other (”wife-sharing”). However, 2-guy threesomes (like we’ve had) and wife-SHARING (like what that site was about) really ARE the same thing. Whereas, wife-SHARING and wife-SWAPPING AREN’T quite the same. The “swapping” involves at least 4 people with females changing partners, but the “sharing” doesn’t usually involve more than one female. The “Wife-SHARING” website, as it’s called, involves people interested in getting together for 2-male threesomes, gangbangs, and/or even just letting the wife/female of a couple be in a twosome with someone else. In case you were wondering why we would fantasize about something that we’d already done - One reason is that, just like with anything a person’s into, the fantasizing is often present when it’s not actually happening, even if it has happened in the past (ie. my fantasies about my partner feeding me). (Interestingly, my more recent feeding fantasies - those in the past year or so - have had someone else feeding me because of my partner’s loss of interest in that activity.) The other reason why we’ve fantasized about threesomes (or wife-sharing activities) after having had them is that we haven’t had the opportunities to have them as often as we would have liked because we frankly have had trouble finding people in our area that are interested in this activity that are also people that we would be interested in. But, granted, we don’t get out much either. That was why we were intrigued by that website - as a possible source for meeting people like that, even though we’d rather NOT meet them through a source like that. Also, I mostly only mentioned my partner’s interest in that website to you in order to emphasize to you that he’s NOT interested in threesomes to get it on with other men like some people seem to think when it comes to wife-sharing threesomes. They just don’t understand how some guys just enjoy sharing their wives/partners without a full swap taking place, which brings me to why we’re NOT really interested in wife-SWAPPING. Not only does my partner usually wear out before I do, but I want sex more often than he does, I never tell him no, and he’s much more interested in sharing me with others than I am in sharing him with others.

I’m also glad that you do actually love fat women and you weren’t being viciously sarcastic, but I’m sorry that you had such a heart-breaking experience. I can understand how certain features about a person, that has committed offenses, can tend to turn one against others with those features. I have an ex that was rather fat, who turned out to be mean. So I used to have some of those same feelings regarding fat guys. (Interestingly, he weighed over 230 lbs. at 5′8 and, once I gained just 30 lbs. with him, putting me at 170 lbs. at that time, he started telling me that I needed to lose weight while he didn’t care for himself to lose weight. Now you tell me who’s warped?) However, I’ve also found that our society helps greatly to give fat people complexes that can turn them ugly, just as, on the other end of the spectrum, it makes celebrities feel like gods that are better than other people.

I also find it interesting that you said what you did regarding families meddling, and that’s because I was just talking with my partner recently about how there hasn’t been enough emphasis in society on how much families play a part in the survival of marriages/partnerships. In fact, my partner’s siblings have been causing some problems between us recently. That’s why I was talking about that issue with him. About all marriage vows typically include something like, “What God has put together, let no man put asunder” and/or “Speak now or forever hold your peace”, which a lot of people either don’t take seriously or they take it to just mean that they shouldn’t come right out and say that you should break up. However, I think that it was meant that you shouldn’t do ANYTHING to cause ANY problems between the couple. That’s not to say that I think that break-ups shouldn’t happen sometimes. I just think that they should be more a choice between the couples. It’s challenging enough to keep relationships together these days without others causing problems in them. My guess is that your partners’ relatives were like the criticizers on this page. Am I right? If I am, it makes me curious about how much your partner of 9 years weighed, start to finish, that they were criticizing you about. I’m also curious about what weight you like your partner to be. I told you some of my weights, including my current weight, but it’s okay if you don’t want to tell me. I’m just curious.

Take care and I honestly would like to find another way for us to communicate than on this site with a rather large audience. (That’s large as in number, not necessarily weight. LOL.)

To Darkfeeder:

By the way, I loved your post to tony. You’ve not only made me laugh now, but you’re still making me h*t.