“In the new Hanky Panky School Dutch sex workers can perfect their skills and ‘boost their sales’ by learning how to give ‘more than sex.’ Hanky Panky’s director Elene Vis, who once headed an international chain of escort services, explains that this is not sex education as we know it… Prostitution, which became legal in the Netherlands in October 2000, is ‘not about sex’ according to the self-styled Dutch escort queen. ‘It is about attention, listening, tenderness and positive energy and those things can be bought…’ After a half day of classes the prostitutes emerge with the power to change ‘ten disappointing minutes’ into an exchange of positive energy.” — iAfrica.com (Africa)

Typically prostitution is defined as selling the body, and yet working girls know that this is just the bare minimum. Yes, you can be a successful prostitute when you sell your body and treat your “clients” with the bedside manner of a rock crusher. But naturally clients are grateful for more — for a little sympathy, attention, tenderness. Most prostitutes can tell a story about a john who paid just to talk or to have a shoulder to cry on. But can these things really, as Ms. Vis claims, be bought and sold? In the space of ten minutes? Between people who are lying to each other about their names and probably about their backgrounds too? After all, it’s one thing to sell your body, but isn’t it another to sell your heart?

It seems like about the best thing you can teach a sex worker is professionalism or bedside manner — and certainly men who pay for sex ought to exhibit some chivalrous behavior as well — and anything beyond that is personal chemistry.

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