Sexual Addiction
“Sexual addiction, or ‘problematic hypersexuality‘ as researchers call it, is a disorder in which thoughts of sex or sex itself so preoccupy a person that his or her behavior becomes destructive… [One therapist] said he has a client who has spent as much as $75,000 a month on Internet pornography. Another spent a quarter of a million dollars over a few years on prostitutes. Several have been arrested, and some have had the FBI show up on their doorsteps, investigating whether their porn habit is leading to child pornography… Therapists cite the example of actor Hugh Grant, caught years ago with a prostitute, to a president who would risk his place in history for an illicit thrill, as did Bill Clinton, as behavior that could indicate sexual addiction… The prevalence and ease of Internet pornography makes it especially difficult to stay sexually sober, the experts said. Regardless of the pitfalls to recovery, the experts agreed resoundingly that the disorder is one of a failing at intimacy and never a sign of a healthy sexuality.” — Contra Costa Times (US)
Whatever happened to nymphomania? Although it may be inevitable that the same old afflictions get new names — as when the 19th century term monomania was replaced by neurosis and then by obsessive-compulsive disorder — it’s sad to see the term nymphomania, with its air of young girls and erotic madness, fall into disuse. In contrast, sexual addiction is so sterile. It makes you imagine that a stay in a methadone clinic could cure you of lubricious urges.
But who would want to be cured, anyway? You get the feeling that much of this talk of sexual addiction amounts to making a medical condition out of an biological inevitability. Men are hardwired for promiscuity — even the shape of their penis reflects it. This is not to say that fidelity can’t be a virtue, nor that marriage can’t be a beautiful thing, but it is to say that sleeping around is not necessarily a sickness. You can’t call Bill Clinton a sex addict just because he got a blowjob from some dumb intern with an overbite. Sex with the minions is a traditional perk of power and authority. Clinton was only doing what caesars and kings have been doing for centuries. Were they all sex addicts? Or just men?
That being said, it does seem excessive to spend $75k a month on internet porn — especially since most porn sites only charge twenty or thirty bucks a month for access. Do the math: was the guy visiting 2500 sites a month? Almost a hundred sites a day? Even supposing he could afford that much money, how could he afford that much time? You’d have to wank 24/7 to consume that much pornography, wouldn’t you?
Conversely, it wouldn’t be that hard to spend quarter of a million dollars on hookers over a period of several years. If the man were going to crack whores, that would be a lot of money, but if he were patronizing more elite “escorts,” he could blow through $250k pretty quick. Suppose he paid $500 a trick — that would mean he visited five hundred prostitutes over a period of “a few” years. That would average out to a trick every other day or so. If you can afford it, that hardly seems like addictive behavior.
So where does that leave “problematic hypersexuality?” About the only guy in the entire article with an obvious problem was the one spending a fortune on internet porn. And was he really addicted to sex? Or was he afraid of it? After all, a man who spends so much time on the computer doesn’t have much time left for physical relations.
I find it odd that you assume all nymphomaniacs are male. In fact, I find it a little ridiculous. This idea that men are “hard wired” to be more sexual is a new one- until recently it was *women* who doctors and theorists believed were over-sexed and unable to control their urges. Hmpf. The penis-shape theory is irrelevent; since the female orgasm increases fertility, women are far more likely to get pregnant by a lover than a husband- does that mean we’re evolutionarily programmed for adultery? Point is, both genders can be total horndogs, damnit. Huzzah!
Wrong,wrong: Satyriasis is the male equivelant of Nymphomania. Wood Nymphs in Mythology were female and the Satyr was half man and half beast
and was male. Term seldom used because the society of men wanted the female to be the bad guy. Satyriasis is simply the sexual desire in man, in other words: A person who is never satisfied and is always hard up.
Yeah but surely you can spend $75k a month on private webcam shows! Order up seven girl webcam show who pass eggs from hole to hole and I’m sure the prize is right.
i don’t spend much on porno,but i’m addicted to it.i’m an introvert,massochist,chronic masturbator.i’m married but i had sex very few times,my wife always had boy friends. i’m retired now and i still average 3- 4 every day.i edge for hours so i keep busy most of the day.even tho i’m always tired from cumming i love it.when i was younger i use to climax up to 8-9 times per day. john the wanker
if you want sex and your getting it in a unharmfull way to yourself and outhers. then u have the human right to have all the sex you want.
I had a boyfriend like that once,he would make
me do sex 15 to over 25 time a day,climax 2 or 3
times each.I couldnt wear any light thin clothes
because I dripped alot.I had often showered only
to it in my hair,embaraissing sometimes; if he could think of it he did it to me.He was VERY
jealious;I couldnt leave the house without him.
I began to wear down from lack of good restful
sleep as he would do me as I slept.I had long
stopped trying to refuse because the hell only became worse.After over two years I escaped.Some
women may laugh at me but too much of a good thing is bad!
I am female and I have a sex addiction. I have fantasized about rape since I was 10 years old (raper and rapee), even included my Barbie. In high school, my main goal was to lose my virginity. After high school, I found out how to find one-night stands, and did that often. I exhaust my boyfriends to the point that they ask for rest. I also use sex as a way to control. I will withhold sex to just to make him beg for more. Then when I do allow it, he’s really revved up. I love reading sex stories and will spend hours on the internet doing so. I am now starting therapy to determine if I am bi-polar, and my sex addiction is a big sign of that. My big sex fantasies include group sex, gangbangs, orgies, rape, and sex outside. I have a strange fetish that I feel I am the only one to have it because I keep Googling it, and finding no exact matches. (I am sexually aroused when I imagine people, men and women, urinating on furniture, sofas, carpeting, in theaters, hotel mattresses, gift shop clothing, walls, etc.) I’ve even done it myself a few times (theater seats, hotel floors, park picnic benches and tables). I would love to be groped. There have been times when I could have had sex and I didn’t, and I regret it now. I write my own sex stories, and orgasm to them. I have tried to “dry out” and “quit”, but sooner or later the urge comes back and I’m either parked in front of the computer screen with my hand down my pants or I’m out looking for a one-nighter. Or I pull out my videos. I believe that sex is just as addictive as drugs, alcohol, cigarettes, food, or work.
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